I can’t tell you his name. He says that would be bragging and he doesn’t brag, even though he has a lot to brag about.
He joined his company as a management trainee more than half a century ago. He retired as CEO of their international business. He’s certainly had a lot of great business accomplishments.
But when you meet the people who knew him or worked for him, they never mention his business success. They don’t talk about great achievements. They say he was a “great guy.” They tell you about how he gave them challenges that made their career. They tell you about little kindnesses he did for them or their family. And they tell you about the little notes he would send.
Those little notes were a bit of praise or an expression of support or something else that would make you smile. One man told me that he kept every one of them for the 20 years he and my friend worked together.
I’ve met a lot of people like him in my half-century in business. They are all effective leaders. And they all do three important things.
Effective Leaders Help You Grow and Develop
Effective leaders work at making you better. They help you master your current job and expand it so that it’s more challenging and more productive. They help you prepare for your next job.
Maybe most important, they let you explore and experiment. They don’t develop you according to a pattern they’ve established. They help you define a pattern that works for you.
I said my friend doesn’t brag, but that’s not exactly true. He brags a lot about people he worked with. He revels in the success of someone who worked for him who started his own company and made it successful. He tells stories about other people’s achievements.
Effective Leaders Pay Attention to Team Dynamics
Effective leaders establish a climate of psychological safety. They make it safe for people to bring forward ideas. But they do much more.
Effective leaders help teammates mesh their strengths with each other, so the team performs better. As my friend says, “You don’t want to be just a collection of talented people. You want to be better together.”
Effective leaders deal with toxic team members. You’ll have them in your career. That old saw about “One rotten apple spoils the bunch” doesn’t get it right. Toxic team members are much more powerful than that. They’re like strong acid, eating away at team cohesion and effectiveness. Effective leaders try to make things work, and if they don’t, they help the toxic person move on. Lots of leaders do that. The most effective leaders do it quickly.
Effective Leaders Set You Free
Effective leaders set you free. That’s free to find your own way and develop your own talents.
Effective leaders set you free to be human. They know you’re going to make mistakes. They know you’re going to have good days and bad days. They want to be a source of help and they want their team to be a source of support.
Effective leaders give you as much control as possible over what you do. Researchers call that autonomy. That’s an important word, but a little example tells it better.
A man who worked for my friend tells about the time my friend sent him to the other side of the country to deal with a big problem. He and my friend talked it over before he left. He asked my friend, “What should I do?” My friend’s answer was simple. “You’ll figure it out. Call me if you need me and I can smooth the way for you. Call me if you just want to talk.”
If you want to be an effective leader, help your team members grow and develop.
Helping team members grow means allowing them to explore and experiment.
If you want to be an effective leader, pay attention to how the team works together.
If you want to be an effective leader, deal with toxic team members quickly.
If you want to be an effective leader, give team members as much control as possible over what they do.
If you want to be an effective leader, allow for the messiness of humanity.
More From Wally Bock
In addition to writing the Three Star Leadership blog, Wally Bock is an author, ghostwriter, writing coach and book doctor. In his past lives he has run a small publishing company, been a popular keynote speaker to audiences around the world, and served as a U. S. Marine. He loves good beer, good friends, and good stories.